Exploring the Spectrum of Pregnancy and Sexuality: One Woman’s Journey

Pregnancy is a unique experience that varies immensely from one woman to another. It's a time of immense physical, emotional and hormonal changes that can significantly impact every aspect of life, including one's sex life. While some women might find their sexual desire increases, others might experience a decrease or face challenges that make intimacy more complicated. This blog post delves into the experience of one woman, highlighting the diversity of experiences during pregnancy and opening the conversation about a topic often shrouded in silence.

Q&A with a New Mum on Sex and Pregnancy

1. How did your experience of sex change throughout your pregnancy?

Throughout my first trimester, something didn’t feel right. Once we knew I was pregnant, it was like I became 'sensitive.' It didn’t hurt, but something didn’t quite feel right. But I think it was just my brain being scared to 'hurt the baby'. However, it remained mostly the same throughout most of my pregnancy. We had sex like we always did. He bent me over, we spooned, and I was on top. But still, I always had my limit, whereas before I didn’t - wink wink!

2. Did you have any concerns or fears about engaging in sexual activity while pregnant?

We joked about 'poking the baby,' but otherwise, we weren’t worried. That was until I was diagnosed with placenta previa, which basically means your placenta covers your cervix, so unless it moves, you can’t have a natural birth, and it’s not safe to have sex because you are at risk of bleeding or rupturing your placenta. But thankfully, my placenta moved in time for me to try for a natural birth and to continue having sex.

3. Were there any physical changes or discomforts that affected your sex life during pregnancy?

Obviously, we couldn’t have sex in missionary anymore, but we spooned and did doggy-style a lot. Although I wasn’t a big fan of doggy-style because I felt a lot of pressure down below. But it was a catch-22 because I loved having sex with my partner.

4. Did you and your partner find new ways to connect intimately during this time?

We used an exercise ball for doggy-style position. So I would lean on the ball on all fours, and he would enter me from behind. We really liked this because the ball would create a natural back and forth movement, but my pregnant belly could hang without being touched. We also really loved spooning sex - we found this really special because we could hold each other, kiss, and he could also hold my belly. It was very intimate and passionate. “Omg, we are having a baby, that’s our baby, and you’re so sexy."

5. How did your libido and sexual desire fluctuate during pregnancy?

For me, during the first trimester, I didn’t want to be touched, but I loved touching myself. Second trimester, I really wanted to be fucked, and third trimester, I was up and down. But always up for a solo session haha.

6. Did you find it helpful to communicate openly with your partner about your sexual needs and desires during pregnancy?

Yes, but at the same time, it's really hard. Every trimester is different. One minute you’re like 'I need a 10-pack of chicken nuggets with sweet and sour sauce because “I will die” to “Fuck the nuggets, if you breathe the wrong way, I’m going to think you don’t love me anymore.” But amongst all that, you’re like “Oh touch me”, “Don’t touch me”, “How dare you touch me” and then “Why the fuck haven’t you touched me?"

7. Were there any specific positions or techniques that were more comfortable or enjoyable for you during pregnancy?

Spooning! Definitely most comfortable! Plus, they can still reach around and play with your clit wink - NO EXCUSES!

8. Did you experience any emotional or psychological changes that impacted your sexual experiences?

Yes, you definitely feel weird and big. Your hormones change and all of a sudden you have this big belly that moves. At first I felt very weird, but then I reminded myself that my body is doing an amazing thing and that I look amazing. Our sexual experiences helped with this, and there’s nothing sexier than the creation of new life.

9. How did you navigate any body image concerns or insecurities related to your changing physique?

I reminded myself that everything I’m experiencing is natural and beautiful. Acceptance is very important. 'I’m pregnant, and my body is going to change, and that’s ok!

10. What advice or tips would you give to other women who are pregnant and curious about maintaining a healthy and satisfying sex life during this time?

Your body is doing what it needs to do in a natural way. It is beautiful, and it is sacred. You are capable of more than you could ever imagine. When it comes to sex, don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with. Set your boundaries, but never forget that a pregnant belly doesn’t mean you aren’t a goddess. Because you are much more than that. You are a queen!

We Want to Hear from You

A huge thank you to this beautiful woman for sharing her experience. Every pregnancy and sexual experience during this time is unique. We'd love to hear your stories and tips on navigating intimacy during pregnancy. Sharing your journey can provide comfort, support, and inspiration to others navigating similar paths. Let us know what your pregnancy sex experience was like. Together, we can break down barriers and create a supportive community around this beautiful and complex aspect of life.